I Blew It. Now What?

What Should You Do If You Wished You Heard the Truth About Sexual Immorality Earlier

1 Corinthians 6:12-20

Khen Lim




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There’s no doubt that there are many Christians out there who wished they’d heard the truth about 1 Corinthians 6: 12-20 earlier or perhaps wished that they’d obeyed Paul’s advice. Maybe you know someone who is guilty about it.

That person may have lost his/her virginity or is betrothed but had become physically intimate out of wedlock. If that person is married, maybe adultery is the problem or that person is trapped in pornography or dreaming up a sexual fantasy with the temptation of wanting to live it out. I have three suggestions as to what that person can do:

1. Go before God and confess

In confessing, know that God is able and willing to forgive you. Sinning against God is always more significant than sinning against fellow humans. Yet the question of sinning against another person tends to be more difficult to come to grips with. 

However, pluck up the courage to compose a sincere and honest letter to those you have been sexually immoral with. In your letter, state that, you have firstly sinned against God, and then against the person. 

Next, ask that person to please forgive you. Following the letter, cease all ties and bring closure to the case.

2. Have it in your heart to quit

Some might say, “I’ve already blown it. What difference does it make now even if I do it one more time?” It does! 

Further acts of immorality tarnishes your moral fibre even more so and will spread as lethally as cancer. It will eat you up before you know it. The most effective measure is to act immediately and radically. 

Go into full reliance mode with God and covenant with Him that you will never do it again. Rely on His strength so you may conquer it. Make a commitment to someone to whom you can be held accountable.

3. If you’re not the one, learn to forgive then

Someone else’s breach of faith is always very hard to forgive especially if it’s your spouse. “I’ll never trust him again” or “My wife’s infidelity is so traumatic I’ll never be able to forgive her.” 

So now, how many times have you called on God to forgive you? 

And did He forgive you?

Who decides if your sin is smaller or bigger? 

You or God? 

Just as you harden your heart, should God do the same against you? 

You may think it’s impossible but if you’re willing, God will help change your heart. Remember, forgiveness is not just a feeling; it’s a decision to follow Christ.